"Professionalism--Look it up." A wonderful quote, by a wonderful woman who goes by D.
Drama. What is
drama?
Drama:
–noun
1. a composition in prose or verse presenting in dialogue or pantomime a story involving conflict or contrast of character, esp. one intended to be acted on the stage; a play.
2. the branch of literature having such compositions as its subject; dramatic art or representation.
3. the art dealing with the writing and production of plays.
4. any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or striking interest or results: the drama of a murder trial.
5. the quality of being dramatic.
-- Dictionary.com
How is drama related to professionalism? It isn't. So why did I just quote a dictionary entry for drama? Because while the two are not related, people can correlate the two...ok, I won’t kid myself. People can "
correlate" get the two mixed up very easily when it comes to professional issues and personal. I associate drama with "personal issues." For example:
Baby Momma Drama. That's one giant set of personal issues and I feel very sorry for those of you who have it, including my brother. But as I have lost my train of thought for where I was going with this example, I will simply say learn to separate your personal issues from the rest of the world. Chances are we don't care or you are going to make an ass of yourself because you can't get over X issue and put that burden on everyone else, which becomes [unnecessary]
drama. In short, don't be a
Drama Queen.
What is Professionalism?
Professionalism:
–noun
1. professional character, spirit, or methods.
2. the standing, practice, or methods of a professional, as distinguished from an amateur.-- Dictionary.com
Allow me to translate: Grow the heck up. Be mature(coincidentally, those two are
not the same thing). And remember how to do/be those two things when people around you can't. That's about what it sums up to. I know we all have our moments where we just forget how to be mature, professional, and act how we know we should, and those times are usually forgiven. But when it is repeated enough times where it becomes habit, that makes you a drama queen, immature, extremely childish(again, not the same as immature), attention whore and possibly even a sadist. These are the kind of people that get trolled, told to go fuck themselves, or even tolerated by some and even attempted to be helped by others, when the only thing they do in return is use the very same thing people tell them as a retort.
That's how you know, ladies and gentlemen, if you are dealing with a previously defined drama queen--when the only thing they can throw back at you is your own words in an attempt to be hurtful and cruel. So why exactly did I write this? Well, I could say nothing at all, that I just had a passing random thought, but that would make me a
hypocrite. Maybe this will shed some light on the purpose of my borderline troll attack:
"I hate people that think the world revolves around them and their needs, when a situation has nothing to do with them or their dramatic issues. I further dislike people that cannot separate personal from professional issues, especially when professional issues are the ones feeding the overly dramatic ego issue."
-- D
(Originally, this was said in the third person point of view. Example: D hates people that think the world revolves around them...etc. But for the purpose of quoting, I edited it to be first person.)***NOTE: My intentions are not to bash, degrade this individual, nor is it to make her look bad, like an ass or a complete drama queen. Truth be said, she does all of that on her own. I am merely expressing my opinion and thoughts on how immature, stupid, and badly handled the situation was. If any of this appears to be offensive, learn how to separate personal from professional issues.***It all started this afternoon over a name. Wait...did she just say name? Yes, I just said name. It was over a name. Indicator number one on how to flag attention seeking drama queens. Here is the dialog to further prove my point. Names have been edited as to not point fingers.
* Person X will always want to call so-so bob.
Person X: ftr
Person X: Jet likes Bob.
* T'Ford wants to call so-so Jeff
* So-so is not Bob
* So-so is not Jeff
T'Ford: but I like Jeff
T'Ford: fine
T'Ford: I'm going to call you Atticus
T'Ford: :P
Person X: Do not
Person X: Not Atticuss
Person X: Ohm
Person X: Atticus
T'Ford: 0_o
T'Ford: why?
Person X: No!
Person X: No.
Person X: Just no and accept it.
T'Ford: no thank you
T'Ford: There's a story behind the Atticus thing
Person X: Yep.
--Content deleted due to irrelevance--
T'Ford: I wasn't asking, I was saying there was.
...a few moments later...
T'Ford: I'll call him Atticus, Kakashi Sensei, Gibbs, Popsy, Pops, or just plain ol' so-so.
T'Ford: and Jeff
* Person X glares
* T'Ford shrugs
Person X: Because the guy who I know with the persona of Atticus is the father to the two children I lost last year.
* Person X has left channel X (Happy?)
- How the hell am I supposed to know that? It didn't mention who he was in a journal entry she provided me after the conflict about why she doesn't like the name Atticus
- How is that my problem, anyway? Am I supposed to stop associated that name with so-so because someone else has an issue with that name?
- Am I supposed to feel sorry for you because of that situation you can't keep separate from harmless fun and your personal problems?
Sure, you could say that I could be considerate enough not to call so-so that name around her since there are many more. I wouldn't have had a problem with doing so had I known ahead of time before I was demanded to not call him that and just accept it (without a reason to accept it, I might add). This, I was able to shrug off and say whatever, not a big deal. But then I log back onto Twitter and see Person X's latest tweet:
" Person X hates people who think they can do anything and have anything and who don't seem to give a flying shit about others."
Good to know I don't care about others. You know, I don't care about anyone other than myself, that's why I am enlisting in the military, that's why I make sacrifices everyday for friends, offer time I don't have to listen to people and their problems, talk to them and give my damnedest attempt to uplift them even just the tiniest bit. All because I really don't care about others. I think before you try and talk about me, disrespect me or whatever you wish to call it, you get to know me so you don't get the details wrong.
At this point, I'm laughing. Laughing so hard I enter troll mode, a trait I get from my lovely Padre, and post this on Twitter: "TFord --It's funny to see some things people post, when what they post is making them a hypocrite. Irony or stupidity?" And only moments later, I am deleted from Facebook and Twitter and Person X tweets again. This time, I am personally called out.
"Person X: I find it funny how the one calling others a hypocrite is one of the biggest hypocrites going. Grow the fuck up, T'Ford. Grow up."
(T'ford is actually taking place of my real name)
I'm rotfling* so hard now, I just go with the natural troll instinct and keep on adding fuel to the fire. My reply: "TFord: Right, now I am a hypocrite. So says the person who deletes me from Facebook and Twitter, yet still checks my tweets and responds to them." After this, she finally blocks me from following her on Twitter and tweets yet again with: "Person X: this life is crap. Give me another one. I'm done. The world can have it's own way, I want out. I want to die."
Drama. Queen.
However, it isn't over yet. I finally calm down and quit laughing long enough to PM her and tell her that I wasn't intending to disrespect her or offend her, but I'm not just going to stop associating a name with a person I am close to because she demands it (...and acts like the world revolves around her <-- didn’t actually tell her that). I would provide logs for this, as well, but sadly I closed out of the window and don't exactly feel like searching the thousands of lines of logs from channels and PMs for that. I continue to tell her that it would be the same thing if a kid came in whose father had just passed away and wanted me to stop calling my Pops "Pops" because they called their father than and it's personal to them (um, hello? It's personal to me as well). I tell her I'm not just going to stop calling someone a name I give them because they don't like it, unless of course it is the person who I am calling by that name. She says that it isn't anything like that, and when I ask her what is it like, I get told fuck you. I then I tell her she is just being whiny because I told her no and she didn't get her way. I then get another fuck you, and something along the lines of 'FUCK YOU! I LOST TWO CHILDREN AND I'M BEING WHINY? GO ROT IN HELL!' **Edit: She did lose two children to misscarriage last year, which is a very, very unfortunate event that I apologize for. However, I was not aware of this knowledge at the time and apologize for the content previously said.** Please note this edit comes after I finished this blog, posted it, then updated my twitter and Facebook (which I was deleted from by her), and IMed about, by her, with this information. She did, however, do some charity work for a little girl with cancer who ended up dying a little later. Note that the two children she lost were last year, I had no knowledge of, and the young girl with cancer was more recent. So just out of the blue, I was called out on a mistake, came back and edited to get the facts straight. What does that say about me? I am willing to admit I was wrong and fix it. Example of professionalism.
Yes, people can get attached to the kids they work with, but how long ago was it that they passed away and you are acting like it is the complete end of the world? Now, not to get confused, I did feel for her, the child that was lost and her friends and family. I still do. It's hard to deal with. But still using it as an excuse or reason to get attention and people to feel sorry for you, to get your way on small things such as the Atticus thing is ridiculous. You are telling me to grow up, yet you fail to take your own advice. You call me a hypocrite yet have nothing to back up that claim. Even other people I have asked can't find anything to call me out on. Are they biased? Probably. Does that make you without bias and not wrong? Not in the least bit. Also, I would like you to notice my lack of profanity, unless quoted, in this blog. There are a few words here and there that you could perceive to be "profane" but I'm not saying "fuck you/fucking grow up/rot in hell/etc" because that is immature, unprofessional, uncalled for, unnecessary and of course, not the type of person I am.
So hopefully this is a lesson to you people reading this, or at the very least provided the same lulz I got out of it. And for the record, Person X has a history of causing a lot of drama and I have witnesses to back me up on that. How many people can she get to back her up on her claims? Probably only those who fall for her drama and feel for her. I on the other hand have no respect for her as a person anymore. Didn't after the last incident where she hurt one of my good friends, but I at least made the effort to put up with her. She doesn't even get that anymore.
Now I will let the people reading this decide for themselves who is really the hypocrite, the "wrong doer" in all of this, or even the drama queen. Because while I am writing about it for the whole interwebz to see, I'm not name calling, calling you out personally, bashing you trying to degrade you. I am in fact doing the opposite--I'm keeping your privacy(save for the people who witnessed this), I'm simply giving my thoughts on the situation and also ranting at the stupidity of it at the same time. In and of itself, this is a little immature because I'm putting it out there, but at the same time I'm putting it out there so people know the truth on the situation and can decide for themselves who to believe. This is an example of separating personal from professionalism.
I rest my case.
*rotfling = rolling on the floor laughing, but using the acronym as an actual word, thus adding -ing to it.
I'd like to thank D for the quotes and giving me ideas on how to express myself, Person X for providing me with epic lulz today, the English language for having this wonderful thing called Satire which contains irony and sarcasm, Jesus for giving me a brain, my Mops and Pops for teaching me how to use said brain, my Padre who passed on his trolling genes to me and taught me the ways of a troll, and my pet rock, Hippie, whom without cheering me on, I would have never finished this 2,405 word blog.
-T'Ford